Don Quixote

Chasing windmills and/or dragons.

I guess its perspective as to which it is that we are charging at. When we see someone we love charging at a windmill sometimes the best thing to do is to charge with them and see the dragon as they do. It is not always a good idea to try and tell them its all a mistake. Even if they know that it is from the start. The only way that they are going to really be able to slay that dragon is to go after it, and find out it really is a windmill after all. Or hey it might really be a dragon and it is hiding, the rest of us can’t see it because we don’t have our TEMs on.

Our job as a friend, a true friend, I mean the “you are my family that I choose” kind of friend, is not to stop others from falling down, it is to help them up when they do fall. Yes we have to be honest, but sometimes it is better to just be supportive, do everything we can to help them, and not be an ass and a know it all. Being supportive can be a lot harder than being helpful at times.

“Oh I was being honest and helpful, by telling them they are making a mistake”

Well there are times when that is needed sure, but there are times too, when it is better to say here is your lance, i will hold the extra horse, so go charge… Being happy for someone to try something is a good friend. Help them, be there for them, and don’t say I told you so. I told you so is a cop out and weak ass attempt at making yourself feel superior nothing else. It serves no purpose at all. No one learns anything from “I Told You So”

Things can be caught up in our psyche for ages, a person can get into our head and the only way to exorcise them is to work at dealing with them. Distance and time both help, but even then we need to have a goal in mind to make the distance and time endurable. Besides, none of us knows what is supposed to happen, and none of us knows what will happen, all the possibilities are out there, in the past and the future.